Is Life Complicated ?

Everyone is special and unique, filled with great energy and abundant gifts that need to be channelised, To uncover and explore all these natural gifts, we need to view our life through spiritual lenses. Human-being is basically made of outer body and inner soul. Physically, we need to take care of our systems, so that they can work right. Inner-soul (Mann) is bit more elaborated, tangled and ignored section.

Let’s see how we can deal with inner world through spiritual aspect of our being.

1. Distancing/unburdening negative thoughts : We all are filled with many impure and filthy emotions: ego, jealously, anger, arrogance, comparison. We are engrossed in these emotions that we start thinking that it’s normal to live like this. Considering them as one of the normalcies. Our mind is not conditioned to see it as enemies. We cannot dissociate or abandon them. Through spiritual guidance It can be conquered. Until you clean your mind from detrimental thoughts you will never come to know what your inner power is. To me ego is the mother to other damaging emotions, it has more authority on our mind. It can dismantle and derail life easily.

ਹਉ ਹਉ ਕਰਤੇ ਕਰਮ ਰਤ ਤਾ ਕੋ ਭਾਰੁ ਅਫਾਰ

Actions that are based on egoism, carry the bearable load.


ਹਉਮੈ ਰੋਗੁ ਵਡਾ ਸੰਸਾਰਿ

Ego is a massive disease in the world.


ਇਹੁ ਮਨੁ ਨਿਰਮਲੁ ਹਉਮੈ ਮਾਰੀ

The mind becomes pure when ego is wiped out.

2. Forgive & Forget: (the most liberating habit) It’s not that effortless. But with the steps each day, it will come naturally. Start with just stop judging or slandering anyone. Try not to be effected by words so much. Don’t seek anyones validation, consent, acceptance, or support.

Try to build your life on foundation of your internal qualities. This thought that of giving it back will not take you anywhere.

By doing this you will end up trapped in more viscous cycle. Nobody knows real circumstances of anyone’s life, as all of us are struggling at inner level. Do conscious effort to control your actions, you are responsible for your behaviour not others. Smartly, try not to divulge into these discussions. Deliberately cut the thought process, stop lingering to it and move ahead. New horizons are waiting for you.

ਹਉ ਹਉ ਕਰਤੇ ਕਰਮ ਰਤ ਤਾ ਕੋ ਭਾਰੁ ਅਫਾਰ

ਜਹਾ ਲੋਭੁ ਤਹ ਕਾਲੁ ਹੈ ਜਹਾ ਖਿਮਾ ਤਹ ਆਪਿ ॥੧੫੫॥


O Kabeer! Within a person, if there is Spiritual awareness or wisdom, there is Dharma; if within him there is falsity, there is evil. Within a person, if there is greed, there is death, within him if there is forgiveness, there is one’s TrueSelf.


ਹਮ ਨਹੀ ਚੰਗੇ ਬੁਰਾ ਨਹੀ ਕੋਇ

ਪ੍ਰਣਵਤਿ ਨਾਨਕੁ ਤਾਰੇ ਸੋਇ ॥੪॥੧॥੨॥


I am of no good, everyone is better than me, its only God who can guide us through this life.

ਫਰੀਦਾ ਮੈ ਜਾਨਿਆ ਦੁਖੁ ਮੁਝ ਕੂ ਦੁਖੁ ਸਬਾਇਐ ਜਗਿ

ਊਚੇ ਚੜਿ ਕੈ ਦੇਖਿਆ ਤਾਂ ਘਰਿ ਘਰਿ ਏਹਾ ਅਗਿ ॥੮੧॥


Fareed, I thought that I was in trouble; the whole world is I was in trouble! When I climbed the hill and looked around, I saw this fire (condition) in each and every home.

3. Isolation from desires and expections: Attain freedom from attachments. We are emotionally connected to our worldly goods that we forget live or find the true self. Just taking care of our chattels and people will not take us to anywhere. Everything in this world is important but to what extent, it should be decided by us not by others. Try to keep a tab on your possessions and ponder what pleasure do they bring it to u. You should have luggage not baggage for life odyssey. Detachment doesn’t means being less sensitive or loving. Rather, it makes you more warmer person without any sense of bondage. When we have the ability to let go, we become more empathetic, sensible and human. Emotions will not just vanish but be more unadulterated, refined and authentic.

ਤਿਆਗਹੁ ਮਨ ਕੇ ਸਗਲ ਕਾਮ ॥੧॥

Abandon all the desires of your mind.

ਸਭ ਕੈ ਮਧਿ ਸਗਲ ਤੇ ਉਦਾਸ

Remain in the midst of all, and yet detached from all.

ਆਸਾ ਮਨਸਾ ਜਲਾਇ ਤੂ ਹੋਇ ਰਹੁ ਮਿਹਮਾਣੁ

Burn away your hopes and desires, and live like a guest in this world.

4. Cultivate gratitude and humanity:

With globalization, humanity is the character with a downhill graph. People have become more intelligent, smart, educated but very aloof or emotionless. This notion is developed that just keep more for yourself than to share . Humanitarian  activities shoukd be included in your planners. This act will bring a sense of real happiness and feeling of gratitude. You will become aware of the fact that how blessed you are and your complaining attitude will half for at least sometime definitely. Inculcate this habit in kids too.

5. Keep an Practise Like minded company: Surroundings have a great impact on your thought process. It can make or break you. Assign some hours of your day to the thins which connect you to more enlightenment., patience and increase your knowledge to learn more.